Sunday, March 27, 2011

A Post About Random Things

Here's a list of random things that have been occupying my time/on my mind lately. In no particular order.

1) Muffins. I'm experimenting with different types of healthy muffins. Some are better than others (the cranberry-orange and blueberry are amazing, the blueberry ginger wheat germ were just ok) but I feel like I'm making progress. MM is currently on a crash-diet (post about that to come) and he eats a muffin for a snack every day. Suggests are always welcome.

2) Music. Since we have satellite radio in the house and in the car, I rarely listen to new music anymore. I either have my iPod on or turn the XM to a mix station. So I'm pretty out of the loop about what's new and exciting in the music industry. I've been going through the top billboard hits lately trying to figure out what's good and what's not. What are you listening to right now?


3) Homework Hell. Yes, we're back in Homework Hell. This time it's Little Man. Since the beginning of the year he's been consistently turning in assignments late or not turning them in at all. He just spent 3 months being grounded for not turning in assignments. He got un-grounded and a week later guess what? He didn't turn in his Language Arts homework. I totally freaked out and - in a moment of pure rage - grounded him until the end of the school year. I'm seriously pissed at myself for doing that because when LM is grounded so am I. It sucks not being able to go places and do stuff because my kid was bad. Cripes.

4) Being Mean. Little Man's birthday is coming up (April 1st). We told him he could have a sleepover with his friends, we'd do a family dinner out at a restaurant and my sister made plans to take him to an arcade/pizza place with a friend. But when he got in trouble for not doing his homework - again - I...canceled his birthday. We're still going to do a family dinner but no sleepover and no arcade with my sister. On the one hand I feel like I'm doing the right thing by being tough. He's been screwing up way too much and it's time for us to show him we mean business. Besides, I'm pretty sure we did way worse to The Girl.

On the other hand, I feel like a really terrible mother for canceling his birthday. I mean..it's a birthday. It's like that time MM decided to cancel Christmas..we just kind of can't do that, you know? So..am I being too mean? MM says no. As a matter of fact, MM saw my canceling the party and raised me one - no presents. He says we're not buying any and if LM gets any presents we're going to hold them until he's ungrounded. I think that's pushing it. But..I kind of agree. I mean, the kid isn't taking this seriously. Obviously, I'm conflicted.

5) Nostalgia. I've been feeling kind of nostalgic lately. I reconnected with some old high school friends recently and it's made me realize how different our lives our now. When I login to Facebook the profile pictures of all my old high school friends are filled with kids and weddings and..well, grown up stuff. I haven't been missing high school - never that - but I have been thinking about how far we've come. I'm not even close to being the same girl I was then, and I'm sure the people I graduated with aren't either (for the most part). I guess time flies.

7) Current Events. I don't read the newspaper or watch the news on tv. I haven't for a long, long time. Everything is always doom and gloom. How often do we see anything positive in the news? Almost never. Lately I've been kind of obsessed with current events, though. Every morning I get up and read the headlines..and start my day pissed off. It never fails that I find something that pushes all my buttons. Or something that makes me unbearably sad. I think I need to stick with my romance novels and go back to ignoring the news.

8) Reading. I took a break from reading for awhile. Nothing I picked up grabbed me and I got frustrated with reading 10-100 pages of a book then setting it aside. I know it was me and not the books, but I still got frustrated. I got over it for awhile - I read like crazy the first part of this month - but I'm kind of falling back into the same funk. It's frustrating.

9) The Girl. Last week TG's school had a High School Prep Meeting and sent home sheets for them to pick out their high school classes. I'm just...sick over this. How do I have a child going into high school. OMG. I'm really proud of her. This year she really pulled it together. Earlier in the year I was worried she was going to pull the same old crap with her homework and assignments, but she's been doing great since around November. She made the Principal's Honor Roll (3.5-4.0 gpa) last semester and it looks like she's going to make it again. Matter of fact, she's currently got straight As. I'm so proud.

She qualified for Honors English and Honors Biology (maybe..they're still deciding if they're going to offer it). I'm a little worried about her taking on such a heavy class load (she's also taking Geometry) since she's not always the best about being organized and responsible. I have a feeling high school is going to be a major shock for her. She's staying in band, which I'm really pleased about, and she's also going to take a foreign language. She chose Latin. She said, "Mom, it's a dead language! How cool is that?". She's such a nerd. I love that about her.

10. Being Single. MM and I are fine. He's just been working a lot lately. He's currently out of town and he spent the last two weeks working a crazy amount of overtime (12-16hr days, 6 days a week) so we hardly saw each other. I'm not one of those wives who needs her husband around all the time. I honestly enjoy having time to myself. When MM works late or goes out with the boys I do a little happy dance because that means me time. Yay. But man, these last 2 weeks have been brutal. It really brought home how much I've come to rely on MM for stuff - picking up the slack with dinner, helping with the kids, sex (especially the sex). I remember when I first got engaged to MM and we decided to move in together I totally freaked about not being Single anymore. Now look at me. I actually miss him. Have I come a long way or what?

5 comments:

CindyS said...

That is A LOT on your mind girl!

I think you did right with the Birthday - you didn't cancel his birthday out right as he will still have his family part. And if he was asking for something big - okay, I'm too out of the loop with kids to know what - I wouldn't get him the item as a gift for his birthday.

Possibly another thing if you need something is to remove them from something they love. My friend is a single mom and her son can be a handful but she knows his weak spot - no more lego and it's hidden so he can't find it. He got it back last time but has been told if there are any more problems it all goes in the garbage. The shocked look was hilarious as was the 'you're serious aren't you mom!' and she was.

Meanwhile Sue's kids climb the walls if taken off all technology - xbox, wii, and Lord knows what else but it's mind boggling.

Current Events - I won't read news papers and rarely know what's going on but when I would cry every night when watching the news I realized it wasn't a good part of my life. And when you do need to know stuff I usually figure it out.

And you have a daughter about to go to highschool - Godson went this year and that was a shock. And my 25 year old cousin had a baby. A BABY! I keep looking at him and thinking 'where did you come from'!? But I love him and my cousin is such a great mom! So proud.

And finally, I can last 5 full days without Bob. On the 5th day I start to get weepy so totally get it ;)

CindyS

nath said...

Awwww, Holly. Sorry to hear about LM. I think the birthday was a good decision, but the gifts would have been a bit too much ^_^; After all, he's still only a kid.

You're not missing much about music, seriously LOL.

and wooohooo about TG :) I'm glad she's doing well! Must be a weight off your shoulder :P

and yes, you've come a loooong way :)

Jen said...

I completely understand your struggles with homework & the timing of the discipline. I've done the same thing and as hard as it was, the boys knowing how important school is to their current happiness and future success was worth the pain. Once the problem was resolved, I rewarded them and it kinda made up for what they missed out on before.

Congrats for the girl! My baby is entering high school in the fall two, but then BOTH of mine will be in high school! Argh! I'm still having small panic attacks over that! What will I do when they're both in college in 4 1/2 years???

I miss chatting with you, we need to find a reason to IM or email like we did in our old mortgage days!

Dr J said...

Parenting is really a brutal kind of living, especially when we have to tow the line on discipline. I know that my kids remember those times and for the most part, there have been positive results when their dad and I were staunch in our stands and agreed on our decisions. But it is never easy. I remember complaining to my dad--when I was about 15, that my frieneds' parents were their "pals." He replied: "When you grow up I'll be your pal. Now I'm your parent." Never forgot that one.

As for being single, yeah, it sucks big time when our "others" are away for one reason or another. I usually enjoy the first few days--that "me" time you mentioned, but then I realize that I am indeed missing him, especially at night, and especially when it seems that the family burdens are getting heavier. Enjoyed your sharing--well, I always do.

Marg said...

I had a 'when did we become grownups' conversation with my oldest friend just a couple of days ago. Seriously...when did that happen?


Your single problem sounds hard to deal with at times, but as someone who is perpetually single, I am a bit jealous that you know there will be an end to it!

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